Thursday, July 30, 2009

How to get a horse?

How do you convince your parents to get you a horse? We live on two acres and we have 80 more a few miles away. And my granpa has over 180 acres and he lives 5 miles aaway. My cousin stacey owns horses, i have neighbors that own them and freind that have them too! They all have talked to my parent saying i should get one, but they won't budge! They won't get me a horse. yes, i am respodsible %26 i get good grades. Every day i yern to ride and take care of a horse! does anyone have an awnser?
Answers:
I have lots of students who are in the same shape as you. Maybe you should start with riding lessons, and by asking your parents for riding lessons first. If they say that they dont have the money for it, then you should find a way to raise money for it either by volunteering at the local lesson barn for lesson credits, or by doing chores for money or helping your grandfather on his farm for money.
Lessons are best to do before you get a horse. It teaches you how to ride, how to care for them properly, and really gives you a great start.
After the lessons, if your parents still wont give you the money, then same thing find a way to raise money. One of my students again is in the same boat. She has raised $2500 in two years and will be getting her first horse this summer.
Maybe it is not that your parents dont realize that you get good grades or that you are responsible, maybe they want you to have ownership in it by showing that you really are serious about it.
After they see that you are serious and that you are willing to do what it takes in order to take care of a horse and ride in the proper way, they might budge, unless there is some reason as to why they dont want you to have one, like you dont have a barn or a shelter, or they dont have the money to care for it after purchase, etc. They might just be concerned about your safety.
They are your parents and they love you more than anything else and no matter what.
Good luck on your quest!
just explain how much you want one and how much confidence you would build
Hi there, ask your parents to start riding lessons ASAP. They may be a little gun shy to take such a big step as investing in a horse, not knowing if you will have the passion to follow through with the responcibilities. And, it is a very big responcibility. You need to continue with your lessons for at least 6 months to a year to prove to your parents that it is your biggest dream to own your very own horse. Take lots of time to educate yourself about horses and their upkeep. Try joining a 4H club in the area. Play the game of Howrse.com online. Go to horse camps in the summertime. Give your folks a chance to realize your dream too, keep up the good grades, and do your chores. I went through this same thing 45 years ago, and am still an active member of the horse industry! Never been without them!
Good luck!
Pro trainer and instructor
Horses are so much work and it sounds like you are wanting to show your parents you are ready to take on this responsibility. Ask your parents what you can do to show them that your are ready. There has to be a reason why they won't budge (i.e. Money, time/ commitment factor)
Before you ask your parents come up with a little report on owning your own horse. Be very thorough and include all expenses and time commitments. Have a vet/farrier/ trainer already in mind. If you have to worry about money have a financial plan on how you can afford the cost and upkeep of a horse. This is a responsible thing to do and it will have to tug at their heartstrings a little.
I hope you get your horse, I had to wait until I was 25 to finally get my OWN horse. I'll tell you what though, it was a whole lot easier riding my trainers' or other people's horses than taking care of my own.
Remember it's hard to go away on Friday night dates, Saturday Night overnights /vacations if you have a horse on your own property that your responsible for.
Best wishes
I have lots of students who are in the same shape as you. Maybe you should start with riding lessons, and by asking your parents for riding lessons first. If they say that they dont have the money for it, then you should find a way to raise money for it either by volunteering at the local lesson barn for lesson credits, or by doing chores for money or helping your grandfather on his farm for money.
Lessons are best to do before you get a horse. It teaches you how to ride, how to care for them properly, and really gives you a great start.
After the lessons, if your parents still wont give you the money, then same thing find a way to raise money. One of my students again is in the same boat. She has raised $2500 in two years and will be getting her first horse this summer.
Maybe it is not that your parents dont realize that you get good grades or that you are responsible, maybe they want you to have ownership in it by showing that you really are serious about it.
After they see that you are serious and that you are willing to do what it takes in order to take care of a horse and ride in the proper way, they might budge, unless there is some reason as to why they dont want you to have one, like you dont have a barn or a shelter, or they dont have the money to care for it after purchase, etc. They might just be concerned about your safety.
They are your parents and they love you more than anything else and no matter what.
Good luck on your quest!
i can give u a pony for 5 grand double it for a mustang
first off horses are amazingly expensive! i spend 12,000 dollars a year on a bording facility alone! and 1200 on shoes. and 800 on entry fees for competion. and much much more.. horses are a lot of money dont act so spoiled.. your parents are just trying to make sure thats theres food on the table!
I am sure if they are saying no without giving you a good reason it has to do with money budgeting problems and they aren't willing to share their finances with you. Horses aren't cheap.you should know that. It isn't just putting them in a field and brushing and riding them every now and then. What if your horse got severely injured. Do you think you parents would have the $200 or more dollars to get a vet to come out and take care of your horse. Plus shoeing your horse isn't a cheap service either. Then there is tack. Good tack is going to cost around $300 just for a saddle. I am sure it has nothing to do with you personally, but more to do with finances. My sister always wanted a horse and didn't get one until she was into her 30's and she was financially able to buy herself one. So not to have one now, isn't a matter of life and death. It's more a matter of waiting.
If your parents refuse, theres not alot you can do.
However, depending on your age, see if you can work at a barn in the summer, that way you could get lessons in exchange for work etc.
Talk to your gpa, maybe he would get you one, but 5 miles 2x/day to take care of it can be taxing.
I drive 10miles/day twice a day to take care of my guys and in ugly weather and blizzards, its not fun.
I've gone through the same problem in fact I just got my first horse a few days ago. I know it can be hard waiting but it makes getting a horse much more special. what i had to do was come up with price ranges for things we would need to buy and also come up with plans for if something went wrong and present it to my parents. it makes you sound lke you are very willing to take care of the horse and also it lets them know you've done your research and fully understand the responsibility.
Show your parents that u can be responsible and let them know why u want a horse, tell them that you no that there is a lot of work but you are willing to do it. show them a few things you no about horses.thats how i convinced my parents to get me a horse(im getting it in 2 months)
Horses are a huge responsibility, and I spent YEARS convincing my parents that I wanted a horse as well. Finally in 7th grade I got a Thoroughbred. He was free because he was a rescue horse, and throughout those two years with him I understood why buying a horse is such a big responsibility. There are the vet bills, the ferrier bills, boarding bills (which won't be a problem for you if it is your land) upkeep (for the fencing and stabling), as well as any potential problems that may arise. I really hope that you can find a way to convince your parents to say yes --horses are the greatest things about life! --, but at the same time remember why they are saying no. A good way to try and convince them though would be by making a list of all the potential problems and money spending a horse would mean and then list out all of the answers you can come up with to solve these problems. SHow your parents that you are willing to take responsibility for all aspects of horse ownership. It will help them know you are responsible enough for a horse, and it might even change their mind about whatever the reasoning was that they wouldn't let you get one in the first place!! good luck!! =)
get a job make some money and tell your parents you'll pay half of the expenses. it always makes them budge!

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  1. it took awhile to get my mom to get me my hors i kept asking asking and finlly for my brithday my mom and me went out i and i bought my horse myself they are alot of work but also we already has horse we have harness race horses(standardbreds) and i love them all so right now i have 6 but 2 are going to be having babys soon

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